No man is an island. We all know
that.
We were all created to socialize.
To mingle with others. To chat. To talk. To have fun. It is the human nature.
We cannot control it. It is innate and we’ve got no choice. But still there’s
one thing we can control and choose – the people who will surround us.
My mentor once said, “It will
always be your prerogative to choose to whom you will talk, with whom you will
be and to whom you will share a part of you..”
It has always been my rule. But
that day, it was sealed.
I choose my crowd. That’s my
prerogative. I choose with whom I will chat. I choose to whom I will open up my
heart and I choose from whom I will hide it.
I choose my friends and I choose
to treasure them.
But then, another day my mentor
told me again, “No matter how special you may become to your friends, still, do
not overestimate your importance. Still, do not expect.” I slowly nodded and smiled and deep
down I whispered, “Indeed, expectation kills.”
That thought made my eyes wide
open that night. I can’t help but ponder upon it. It was just an unwritten
code. It was said out of the blue. And maybe I can say, out of a joke.
“Do not overestimate your
importance to someone.”
Yeah, right. That should be RULE
# 1. In any relationship, you can’t avoid pain. But in order to avoid greater
pain, you have to abide with this rule.
You may be important because
you’re a friend. But that doesn’t mean that you are the most valued one. Always
think, YOU ARE NOT.
Sometimes, you will think that
your friend will be there by your side with just one call. But what if he/she
doesn’t?
Sometimes you will think your
friend will understand your feelings. But what if he/she doesn’t?
Sometimes you will walk away and
expect him/her to follow. But what if he/she doesn’t?
That’s why there’s Rule #1. And
if you adopt it, don’t dare to forget it.
You are a friend.. but always
remember that YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY FRIEND.
So BACK OFF a little bit my
friend.. lest you will just get badly hurt.
RULE # 1: Do not overestimate
your importance to someone.
Clear?
Clear.
